After I uncovered the truth, I confronted Jhoy directly through WhatsApp. We had a video call. Her face said everything her words wouldn’t.
I asked her, flat out:
“Is Reynard your boyfriend?”
She hesitated, then nodded.
“Does he know what you do on Tango?”
She nodded again.
“Does he help you with it?”
She said yes.
That was the confirmation I needed. That video call sealed it. This was a romance scam carried out by a couple — and not just any couple — a couple that used love, sympathy, and fabricated hardship as their tools.
The Emails Begin
After that call, I sent this email to her PayPal email address:
From: Incredible Panda
To: abueva60001@gmail.com
Subject: Hello Scorpion
Your scam has been fully exposed, and I have undeniable proof.
Jhoy agreed to be my fiancée. She told me she loved me.
She said her baby was mine. All while still with Reynard.
I’ve found your profiles. I’ve seen the photos.
You’re in this together. Refund me what you owe me, or I will notify everyone you know.
Her response was dismissive:
I’m not scamming you. I never asked you to give me something! Like money. You know what Tango’s going.
Later, I sent another message from “Panda” — still playing the role of a concerned outsider:
The real reason I disappeared is that I felt uncomfortable with the situation between you and James.
My wife pointed out what you were doing was unethical.
You seemed to be manipulating him emotionally. I cannot be involved.
She replied with just two words:
“No comment.”
The Promise to Refund Me
Eventually, I dropped the act and told her directly: I knew it was a romance scam.
She stopped denying it and instead promised to refund me $200. She claimed to only have $50 in her PayPal at the time. That $50 was sent, probably money from another poor victim. But the remaining $150 never arrived.
To this day, she has never refunded the rest.
She Tried to Shift the Blame
Even after the refund promise, Jhoy tried to reframe everything.
She told me:
“You offered. I didn’t ask. That’s not scamming.”
But it was. Emotional manipulation — pretending to be in love, pretending I was the father of her child, pretending she needed help to survive — that’s manipulation. And when money enters the equation, that becomes exploitation.
She used my empathy. My hope. My belief in love.
The Victim Narrative
Later, I discovered she made a post on her Facebook account (which was deleted soon after) where she claimed:
“Excuse me, I didn’t ask for anything. Why would I pay him back? He gave me gifts on Tango. Then he threatened to expose me.”
She even wrote in Filipino:
“Bahala ka jan, tinatakot mo pa ako na i-post mo. Di i-post mo. Sanay na ako jan.”
(Translation: “Do what you want, you’re threatening to post me — then post it, I’m used to that.”)
Her tone had changed entirely. She was now playing the victim, as if I were the one who had done something wrong.
But I had all the proof:
- Screenshots
- Emails
- Chat logs
- Video call confessions
And more importantly, I had the truth.
